Tips to handle your partner’s parents when they don’t like you

Tips to handle your partner’s parents when they don’t like you – 

What hurts more than a breakup? Your partner’s parents dislike you. If your partner’s parents dislike you it will affect your relationship a lot, I mean we are talking about the parents, the same people to give their blessings.

But you shouldn’t feel devastated if that is the case with you. you came to the right article for a solution to this problem.

Do little things to show them that you care

You can do little things that show you care you don’t just walk into their home and relax, for god sake, you are trying to get them to like you get up on your ass and help them out, you can help the mom prepare food, you can help the dad paint or reconstruct the fence, you can mow the garden, there are tons of little things to do to show your sincerity, do this and watch their dislike fade bit by bit.

Trying to Undo Their Dislike for You

They don’t just dislike you for no reason, you should ask your partner because there are chances that your partner knows of course the parents should have dropped a hint, maybe your partner must have hidden it to avoid hurting your feelings but it just makes it worse because you need to know the cause of the dislike to correct it, they must have disliked you because of the way you spoke on the first meet and that’s why first impression matters a lot, find out the cause of the dislike and try to correct it, apologize if possible.

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Don’t take most of their actions personal

Once you don’t take their actions personally then you will be determined to make them like you till you achieve it, they may want what’s best for their child and think you are not it, all you have to do is to change their mindset about it.

 Remember that you have an entire human being in common

You and your partner’s parents love one person in common and that’s your partner, you should try to bond with them by sharing the things you love about your partner while they share theirs, you can bond over your partner’s childhood memories and pictures, while at this make them see you love and care for their child and know a lot about their child.

Talk to the parents

If you try everything and it doesn’t work out try talking with the parents as they have a better understanding and reason on why they dislike you,

while at this don’t be confrontational or abusive, keep your calm and be respectful, if the open-minded conversation gives you the closure you need, it is up to you to know the next step, they are parents and must surely feel a bit after the conversation.

Learn to be patient

Patience is the key, don’t give up after a few trials, you should give them time to warm up to you and come around, you should know how stubborn and adamant parents are especially when it comes to their kids. Give them time, and be patient!!!

Respect your partner’s parent

You should respect your partner’s parents as it makes it easier but that doesn’t mean you should sit around and don’t stand up for yourself, when they give you intolerable disrespect you should stand up for yourself and do it respectfully so as to not put your partner in a tight spot to choose sides.

Write down possible ideas for the cause of the dislike

If you can’t ask your partner or the parents then it is time to get practical and think of possible reasons that could cause the dislike, it may be religious differences and beliefs, origin, attitude, race, or they just don’t want their child to be with anyone.

While doing this you should confide in a trustworthy friend who can help you figure out what to do because you can’t do it on your own, and you need extra head to help you out.

Understand that you cannot control things

It is okay to become tired, trying to please a partner’s parents can be weary especially when you have done it for a long period of time yet no changes, you should understand that you’ve done your best and most things can’t be changed, controlled, or bent to your own will, a relationship is a two-way thing and your partner should do too and if to doesn’t work out learn to let things go, I don’t mean your partner but the parents, over the years they might come around as they get older.

Find an ally in the family

In most cases this helps, your partner might be stressed out about the issue which can cause tension in your relationship, at the other end you might haven’t made progress yet, you can relieve the tension, burden, and dislike by forming an ally with someone in the family who could also help out talking to the parents.

You could win over the easier parent and form an ally to help talk over with the other parent.